Sometimes it’s the conversations not had that do the most damage to the people in our lives. Hard Conversations is a collection of short stories detailing the lives of five urban people who are standing at the intersection of their past and their potential. Sensing that something is still off in the lives that they have built, each has to make the crucial decision whether to address their secrets long buried, or to continue living in the uncomfortable matrix they created. Only they can decide what their future will bring.
Our gifting often becomes our prison. I wrote this book to pull back the mask on our experience in the hopes that it compels us to confront our learned ability to white wash our pain with our talent and giftings. We are often taught that the greatest value that we bring to the world is solely present in what we do, what we earn, or how well we play. In reality our greatest value is in the stories that we can articulate to those we influence once we have reached the other side of trauma. Trauma that tried to silence our voice, trauma that caused a part of us to die in the fight, and trauma that threatened us to stay silent after our experience with it because we should just be grateful that we made it to the other side.
Why Did You Write Your Book?
I have known too many people who are stuck in their life because something that occurred in their past. I have grown tired of watching others and myself go around the same tree in life because we refuse to confront the trauma that we have experienced in life. One thing about people of color is that we know how to survive things. Through oppression, depression, suppression, and trauma, we become determined to make it to the other side. The problem becomes when we make it through to the other side, we often have been changed and lost some things along the way that are necessities to moving forward in life and in wholeness. At some point, we realize that we have made it, but we are broken, we are wounded, and we are leaking out what we have been through. We must decide whether we are going to try to keep it moving or if we are brave enough to confront the past to not just survive, but to thrive. In order to thrive we have to back track and have conversations with people, not for their sake, but for ours. We can’t build new homes or new lives on top of the graveyards of traumatic experiences. Those experiences have to be confronted and uncovered to regain our power and freedom. The first book Hard Conversations: Book 1 Breadcrumbs to the Past is the first book in my new urban fiction series that begins to unpack the stories of fictional characters that hav obtained a lot of things yet they are still just as unhappy and unfulfilled as when they had nothing. It isn’t the acquiring of things or experiences that can make them free, it is truly addressing the deep seated pain that they keep living from though they try to ignore it. The book is a way for people to locate themselves and then start the process of actively pursuing their wholeness so that they really can become the person that many of us desire to be or pretend to be. It’s not until we really clear up the inner turmoil that we can have successful relationships: business, personal, romantic, familial, etc.